Writing for Good: Email Our Military

by Christine Cavalier on 17 April 2008

Dear Reader,

As many of my family and close friends know, I have joined the ranks of the caring men and women who have military pen pals currently serving tours in Iraq. Through Twitter, I learned of Email Our Military (@MailOurMilitary), a volunteer service that grew out of a national security measure that banned all mail addressed to “Any Serviceman.” I took on two pen pals. We’ve been exchanging emails for about two or three weeks now.

For security reasons, I cannot go into details about these two service people or the content of our emails. But I do have a lot to say about writing and using our hobby for good things. If you are a writer, like me, why not take on a pen pal? You can send fiction, poetry, your shopping list, whatever. But you shouldn’t write ‘anything.’ Let me explain.

A controversy seems to be stirring on Twitter. One of my online contacts, a pretty staunch conservative as far as I can tell, appears to have publicly criticized the eMOM program. I didn’t bother to look up all the entries because I want to assume the best in everyone. The best I am assuming for the critic is this: Perhaps he is, at heart, worried that some Viet Nam throwback liberal will get an eMOM pal and spew vitriol about the war and politics. The concern is that any serviceman who gets such an email can be put in a diminished psychological state, and therefore be put in danger. The critic may also worry about how ‘regular’ people may not be trained to deal with the stress that comes along with being deployed in a war zone, and that well-meaning writers, hawk or dove, can say the wrong thing and amplify the stress.

I’m hoping the eMOM people will see this post and respond with their own views, because they are the experts. I’m not. I’m just a peppy person who thinks I could brighten someone’s day, even with my plain picked-fence descriptions of daily life in the ‘burbs. I am also, by chance, a person who has seen a lot of trauma in her life and feels strong enough to listen if my penpals need me to. Any person who has ever been a friend to anyone else in life can do that.

I’m a ‘bleeding heart liberal’ who writes poetry and hates sitting in church. I breast fed my children and carried them around in slings and am married to a person with a PhD in Philosophy. Those few facts should give you enough ammo to make up all the stereotypes you want about me and my political beliefs. It doesn’t matter. I have enough of a brain to realize that I am writing to people employed as soldiers in a war zone. I know that anything I write can be misconstrued and weigh heavily on the mind of a soldier who may go into combat. I also realize this isn’t rocket science, and American soldiers, although human, are highly trained professionals that are taught to block out stupidity when they are in the line of fire. They aren’t children, and neither are the eMOM civilian participants.

As a creative and professional person, I write. As an American, I see it as my duty to write to a soldier or two in Iraq. We need to wake up, people. We are one country. This war and those soldiers are our responsibility. Yes, “OUR,” which includes you. You sitting right there reading this. Write what you can. Your emails don’t have to be perfect. If you are too shy or afraid, recruit your best outgoing friends. Find someone who is sending care packages and donate something. Whatever. Those service people just want to be remembered and respected. That’s it! How EASY is that?

And you know what? You may take away more value than you can ever dream of. I get a little misty-eyed when I read how deeply grateful my penpals are just for a mere shout out. It’s a big huge piece of humble pie that ALL of us Americans, blue, red, or PURPLE, could eat. Twice.

Love,

-PurpleCar

A Proud eMailOurMilitary.com Member

http://www.emailourmilitary.com/

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  • http://hawksdomain.wordpress.com Paula Hawk aka @Hawksdomain

    I was asked to come and post some thoughts here. PurpleCar, I hope I do not say anything that will offend you, as I am very thankful that you brought this entire subject to light.

    For anyone to group the users of Twitter into an exclusive group of anything other than technology users is simply absurd. Users of Twitter come from all over the world, in fact, I would guess that those of us here in the US are a minority in the Twitterverse as a whole.

    For any American to say that we, as a country, are against the TROOPS, cannot be an American. For YEARS I have spread across the internet that we are not in the 1970s and that this is not Vietnam. I am so far against this war that it isn’t even funny. I despise the current president of the United States and blame him and his staff for the alleged WMDs that sent us into Iraq. There is not one single soldier I do not support. I support and love the soldiers from each and every war this country has ever been in.

    Those accused and convicted of crimes RE Abu Graib (I know I spelled that wrong), love ‘em and support ‘em. The president that will not reject the use of waterboarding? Despise him.

    Some of the soldiers, including one I am related to, feel that the war is good and justified. They say that the people in Iraq are genuinely happy that we are there. Some of the soldiers, such as those I see on the news and other places, feel that being in Iraq is wrong, just as I do. Regardless of the position of these men and women, fighting the war is their job, just like my job is supporting an office to ensure it runs smoothly. We don’t always like our jobs, but we do them. People do not hate us because we do our jobs – Let me rephrase that – people worth listening to do not hate us because of our jobs.

    Americans support their soldiers, because without them there would be no America. Many of us who are so involved in the technology world and active on Twitter were too young to be involved with Vietnam. We heard the stories of how American soldiers were spit upon and degraded horribly. We are not the generations responsible for such actions.

    As I sit here and wonder if there is anything further I should say on this subject, I come to realize that it is not just Generation X and Generation Y that are unconditionally supporting our troops and have ignored the craziness of what was the Vietnam war…. Gee, don’t we have a Vietnam Vet running for President?

    Since the late 1980s, I have not met one person in this country who did not support our troops. I was also greatly against Desert Storm, for reasons that are not important here, but I always, ALWAYS supported our troops.

  • http://hawksdomain.wordpress.com Paula Hawk aka @Hawksdomain

    I was asked to come and post some thoughts here. PurpleCar, I hope I do not say anything that will offend you, as I am very thankful that you brought this entire subject to light.

    For anyone to group the users of Twitter into an exclusive group of anything other than technology users is simply absurd. Users of Twitter come from all over the world, in fact, I would guess that those of us here in the US are a minority in the Twitterverse as a whole.

    For any American to say that we, as a country, are against the TROOPS, cannot be an American. For YEARS I have spread across the internet that we are not in the 1970s and that this is not Vietnam. I am so far against this war that it isn’t even funny. I despise the current president of the United States and blame him and his staff for the alleged WMDs that sent us into Iraq. There is not one single soldier I do not support. I support and love the soldiers from each and every war this country has ever been in.

    Those accused and convicted of crimes RE Abu Graib (I know I spelled that wrong), love ‘em and support ‘em. The president that will not reject the use of waterboarding? Despise him.

    Some of the soldiers, including one I am related to, feel that the war is good and justified. They say that the people in Iraq are genuinely happy that we are there. Some of the soldiers, such as those I see on the news and other places, feel that being in Iraq is wrong, just as I do. Regardless of the position of these men and women, fighting the war is their job, just like my job is supporting an office to ensure it runs smoothly. We don’t always like our jobs, but we do them. People do not hate us because we do our jobs – Let me rephrase that – people worth listening to do not hate us because of our jobs.

    Americans support their soldiers, because without them there would be no America. Many of us who are so involved in the technology world and active on Twitter were too young to be involved with Vietnam. We heard the stories of how American soldiers were spit upon and degraded horribly. We are not the generations responsible for such actions.

    As I sit here and wonder if there is anything further I should say on this subject, I come to realize that it is not just Generation X and Generation Y that are unconditionally supporting our troops and have ignored the craziness of what was the Vietnam war…. Gee, don’t we have a Vietnam Vet running for President?

    Since the late 1980s, I have not met one person in this country who did not support our troops. I was also greatly against Desert Storm, for reasons that are not important here, but I always, ALWAYS supported our troops.

  • Tony

    Paula,

    While I disagree with some of what you say, I respect your views. I do agree with it not being a GenX or GenY stance. However, I believe that these Generations are more active and responsive than previous generations if not only due to the technology available to us versus in the past.

    Thank you for sharing your views. Have a great day!

  • Tony

    Paula,

    While I disagree with some of what you say, I respect your views. I do agree with it not being a GenX or GenY stance. However, I believe that these Generations are more active and responsive than previous generations if not only due to the technology available to us versus in the past.

    Thank you for sharing your views. Have a great day!

  • thaumata

    Well, I’m only 28 but it seems to me we were years into vietnam before you could protest without fear of being beaten to a bloody pulp…. and we had millions of people protesting THIS war before it even began. I’d say that’s much more active and responsive, for whatever reason. Technology is obviously a leading factor here. Eleven minutes after the earthquake at my home today, Google had logged the AP report. We’ve come a long way.

    That being said, though, despite the fact that I can’t name a single person I personally know who supports the idea of our nation at war, I also don’t know a single person who has anything but gratitude and compassion for the people who are over there fighting it. I mean that sincerely.

    Also, after reading this story, I went hunting for other sites that connect civilians and soldiers via email, and HOLY COW, they are all so shady. Most of them have websites the 1980s would kill for, require money to join or seem to have an agenda that’s far beyond cheering up someone far from home and making their days better, which is really all any of these groups should be doing, along with anyone writing through them. Anyone doing this job well deserves applause, because it would seem that most people are not.

  • thaumata

    Well, I’m only 28 but it seems to me we were years into vietnam before you could protest without fear of being beaten to a bloody pulp…. and we had millions of people protesting THIS war before it even began. I’d say that’s much more active and responsive, for whatever reason. Technology is obviously a leading factor here. Eleven minutes after the earthquake at my home today, Google had logged the AP report. We’ve come a long way.

    That being said, though, despite the fact that I can’t name a single person I personally know who supports the idea of our nation at war, I also don’t know a single person who has anything but gratitude and compassion for the people who are over there fighting it. I mean that sincerely.

    Also, after reading this story, I went hunting for other sites that connect civilians and soldiers via email, and HOLY COW, they are all so shady. Most of them have websites the 1980s would kill for, require money to join or seem to have an agenda that’s far beyond cheering up someone far from home and making their days better, which is really all any of these groups should be doing, along with anyone writing through them. Anyone doing this job well deserves applause, because it would seem that most people are not.

  • http://noahdavidsimon.blogspot.com/ Noah David Simon

    what is this about the code not being apparent?
    PATHETIC!

    you shouldn’t harass the soldiers. you shouldn’t harass me and it would seem you spend more time twitter bitching then actually insuring the soldiers don’t get flamed like I am getting. you are proving exactly what I am saying.
    Yes this is America… feel free to continue being an idiot on this thread.
    LEAVE THE SOLDIERS OUT OF THIS!

  • http://www.simonstudio.com/ark Noah David Simon

    what is this about the code not being apparent?
    PATHETIC!

    you shouldn’t harass the soldiers. you shouldn’t harass me and it would seem you spend more time twitter bitching then actually insuring the soldiers don’t get flamed like I am getting. you are proving exactly what I am saying.
    Yes this is America… feel free to continue being an idiot on this thread.
    LEAVE THE SOLDIERS OUT OF THIS!

  • http://www.danmosqueda.blogspot.com Dan Mosqueda

    I am a reservist in the Air Force. When I was deployed 2 years ago to Kuwait and Iraq, I remember receiving mail from somebody I didn’t know. In fact, I received a few things in the mail. It literally brought tears to my eyes because it said to me that someone back home was thinking about me. I saved the items and have them to this day.

    I would say that if you’re writing to a servicemember, keep it cheery and supportive. And if you send them something in the summer, make sure it’s not meltable because it’s hot over there!

  • http://www.danmosqueda.blogspot.com Dan Mosqueda

    I am a reservist in the Air Force. When I was deployed 2 years ago to Kuwait and Iraq, I remember receiving mail from somebody I didn’t know. In fact, I received a few things in the mail. It literally brought tears to my eyes because it said to me that someone back home was thinking about me. I saved the items and have them to this day.

    I would say that if you’re writing to a servicemember, keep it cheery and supportive. And if you send them something in the summer, make sure it’s not meltable because it’s hot over there!

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  • http://noahdavidsimon.blogspot.com/ Noah David Simon

    also a further comment about the poor design of eMOM
    please look at the illustration work of Jason Brooks and give him a little credit for his design style. Few realize that he invented this digital illustration style stolen by so many girly ventures. The integrity of your site is so lacking in so many ways other then moral issues. The design of this thing is pathetic.

  • http://www.simonstudio.com/ark Noah David Simon

    also a further comment about the poor design of eMOM
    please look at the illustration work of Jason Brooks and give him a little credit for his design style. Few realize that he invented this digital illustration style stolen by so many girly ventures. The integrity of your site is so lacking in so many ways other then moral issues. The design of this thing is pathetic.

  • http://noahdavidsimon.blogspot.com/ Noah David Simon

    here is the master Jason Brook’s work.
    please give credit to artists.

    soldiers are important, but the integrity of the design and your references to it’s history are important too

    http://www.jason-brooks.com/portfolio/

    this guy is actually an interior decorator, but every one in advertising lifted this poor guys style… including Mail our Military

  • http://www.simonstudio.com/ark Noah David Simon

    here is the master Jason Brook’s work.
    please give credit to artists.

    soldiers are important, but the integrity of the design and your references to it’s history are important too

    http://www.jason-brooks.com/portfolio/

    this guy is actually an interior decorator, but every one in advertising lifted this poor guys style… including Mail our Military

  • Troy

    I want to put an end to this petty bickering…

    Let me start by saying I am a 23 year old combat medic, in iraq. I have requested to get emails from emom and as have others over here with me. The simple thing is that mail electronic or not is a great damn morale booster. I miss home and have been stuck in this shit hole for the past 6 months and i have about 9 left to go. we get mail all the time from random people accross the U.S. and it makes us happy to see that we are appreciated and not forgotten. trust me its easy to think that you are forgotten. i am not going to say if i believe in the war or not or what side of the politcal fence i stand in. i will say this, TROOPS LOVE MAIL! i am a line medic. i am right there on the front lines kicking in doors and my guys all call me doc. i have seen the worst that humanity has to offer but i offer the best humanity has to give. its a hard job and i deal with more human suffering than i care to think about, and nothing shines through the thick, darkness like a simple letter or email. i dont care what its about. i could use the break in the monotiny of this hell hole. but once again it is america and what i fight for to keep free so enjoy your opinions. god bless, and sorry for the gramatically incorrect rant.

  • Troy

    I want to put an end to this petty bickering…

    Let me start by saying I am a 23 year old combat medic, in iraq. I have requested to get emails from emom and as have others over here with me. The simple thing is that mail electronic or not is a great damn morale booster. I miss home and have been stuck in this shit hole for the past 6 months and i have about 9 left to go. we get mail all the time from random people accross the U.S. and it makes us happy to see that we are appreciated and not forgotten. trust me its easy to think that you are forgotten. i am not going to say if i believe in the war or not or what side of the politcal fence i stand in. i will say this, TROOPS LOVE MAIL! i am a line medic. i am right there on the front lines kicking in doors and my guys all call me doc. i have seen the worst that humanity has to offer but i offer the best humanity has to give. its a hard job and i deal with more human suffering than i care to think about, and nothing shines through the thick, darkness like a simple letter or email. i dont care what its about. i could use the break in the monotiny of this hell hole. but once again it is america and what i fight for to keep free so enjoy your opinions. god bless, and sorry for the gramatically incorrect rant.

  • http://www.purplecar.net/ PurpleCar

    And that, my friends, is the last word on that!

  • http://www.purplecar.net/ PurpleCar

    And that, my friends, is the last word on that!

  • Tony

    Troy

    Be safe bro! Thank YOU and all the rest of the troops for doing what you do. I am damn proud of all you guys!

    Again, stay safe and get home soon!

  • Tony

    Troy

    Be safe bro! Thank YOU and all the rest of the troops for doing what you do. I am damn proud of all you guys!

    Again, stay safe and get home soon!

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