≡ Menu

App removal is a life choice

Many of you know I don’t have Facebook on my phone. In fact, I have a dedicated browser for Facebook on my machine, and I only access the site (and nothing else) on this machine using that browser. Limiting Facebook’s tracking practices gives me an illusion of privacy.

More people in my life seem to use the Facebook messenger service in lieu of texting. So far I haven’t run into too much inconvenience not having FB on my phone. Close friends have my cell number, and they haven’t yet complained about the extra step of having to use SMS/text to get to me. Voicing suspicion about Facebook is socially acceptable at this point, and hence I get no pushback on my FB ban.

A few days ago, I removed Twitter from my iPad and iPhone. I was spending too much time on Twitter in the mornings “with my coffee.” I’d tell myself that I’d only peruse Twitter for the time it took to finish my first 10 oz of coffee, but … that cup of coffee started taking over an hour to finish. That time suck just crept up on me until it was over an hour, sometimes two. It doesn’t matter how early you get up, that kind of puttering around the Internet puts a drag on your day.

So, it’s gone. I’ve replaced the action with Instagram, SnapChat and Flipboard, but I exhaust all of those apps in 5 minutes. Then I know it’s time to get up and move. I was out at the mall today, sitting and waiting, pleasantly, for other people. I would’ve sat on Twitter, and I definitely missed having it, but I spent more time talking with actual humans. In fact, my daughter and I saved a family some real heartache because we were awake and aware.

A little girl, maybe 2 years old, wandered away from her older sister (maybe 4 yrs old) and her grandmother. The grandmother was distracted by something (don’t know if it was a phone) and the tiny tot ran away, towards us and some kiddie rides. We watched as the grandmother realized the tot had escaped. We had been keeping an eye on the little girl, who was fine – she was happily climbing on the structures – so we waved the woman down and yelled that the little one was in front of us.

Before you condemn the grandmother, this little girl was speedy gonzales. She was gone in a matter of a few seconds. And it happens. Everything was fine. I’ve witnessed – and helped out in  – this type of situation countless times (I tend to be hyperaware), but I wonder if not having Twitter on my phone helped. I was sitting down, waiting, passing the time. It was a perfectly acceptable situation to check my phone. And honestly, nowadays it is a bit uncomfortable simply sitting and watching people and things happening. One can come off like a creeper, I’d suppose. We’re so used to people having their heads down. But today I’m glad I had my head up, and this week I’ve definitely started the day a lot sooner than usual.

So, very limited Twitter for me, until I can totally control the habit. What about you?

0 comments
2 ducks silhouetted against a nighttime blue lake

Zen ducks

I’ve been on a quest to get things in order. This means physical things and mental things. This week I’ve been bumped off the track a bit but I’ve still managed to get stuff done. Sometimes the results aren’t pretty, but there is some value in getting a TO DO task done “technically” as opposed to not at all. Even the smallest effort counts towards something when you’re trying to learn a new habit. For example: 1 yoga pose is enough to check off “Yoga.” 5 minutes of walking isn’t the goal of 30 minutes, but it is “walking” – check. This is about a lifestyle change, not a race or pride, or even greed.

My hyperlocal blog took up all my time today because of some newsworthy events. Hopefully I can get up from the keyboard soon and go do other things. Compartmentalizing is also quite the great skill, too. I suppose it could also be called “living in the moment” – a concept I’m learning from eastern/buddhist practices like yoga and meditation. The discipline of focusing your mind on the very singular task-at-hand is a tough one to learn but very productive. I often find myself thinking, “All I have to do right now is this task. Nothing else. Right now I am writing a blog post. All other worries must wait.”

Of course if a car crashes into the house, I’ll have to change my immediate priorities. But *worrying* that a car will crash into the house before I’m finished this post is a complete waste of time and effort. I’m confident I can switch gears in case of emergency.

I’m still learning. Baby steps.

 

Photo Credit: Glorius Gaduang on Flickr

2 ducks silhouetted against a nighttime blue lake 0 comments

The Girl Who Fell to Earth

Today I’ll point you to some beautiful writing. It speaks for itself. Give it a quick (and devastating) minute:

http://fullgrownpeople.com/2016/01/14/the-girl-who-fell-to-earth/

 

0 comments
Take a minute to dream

Take a minute to dream

Tonight’s Powerball jackpot is over a billion dollars. How crazy is that?

We’ve spent our obligatory few bucks on tickets, even though the math doesn’t quite work out – why go up against a 1 in 300,000,000 chance to win when other smaller jackpots have a 1 in 11 mill chance?

Yeah, see, though, that’s not the point, is it? The fun is in the group excitement. Buying some lottery tickets helps you feel like a part of something.

I’m still on the fence of the good/bad of buying lottery tickets, though. I only buy some when the jackpot is digustingly huge, because there is so much to be imagined and shared. Tonight at the dinner table, we talked about our dreams and what we’d do with that kind of money. Crazy-world daydreams say a lot about a person. It’s so fun to listen and imagine these impossible things.

But then I always want to encourage any daydreamers to find a miniature version of the big dream. Want designer clothes? You could spend time scouring sales and thrift stores. You can build up pieces one by one, making sure to buy timeless labels and designs.

Want a room dedicated to a hobby? Where can you set up a permanent desk for it? We all have too much clutter. It’s likely a bit of organizing can help you uncover dedicated space, even it is a 2×2 square. If you have big dreams, use that square to work out a plan on how to obtain a bigger space.

When my New Year’s Resolutions started (a few days before Xmas) I carved out space in the laundry room where I could permanently park my yoga mat. I’ve done more yoga in the last two weeks than I had in the previous two months.

So dream away, kids, and good luck to us all. In the meantime, take a look at your own wants and desires and ask yourself: how can I have a piece of this today? Then go get it!

 

PHOTO CREDIT: Take Back Your Health on Flickr.com

0 comments

Happiness means struggle

Ugh. Too much caffeine this morning! I’m having a very hard time staying on task. I’m also in one of those odd states of mind where confidence+cynicism makes me think I know everything. One thing I *do* know about thinking you know everything: It means you know nothing.

So I GOOGed “what to think when you think you know everything” and came up with this gem of a post. My cynical side is yelling “bullshit” but my more sane side is saying “there’s probably some worthy knowledge here I’m not ready for at this hyper-caffeinated moment.”

Go on over to Mark’s page to read it. There’s a great quote, which Mark says is the single-most repeated bit from his book on dating:

“you cannot be a powerful life-changing presence to some people without being a complete joke and embarrassment to others.”

 

http://markmanson.net/hidden-costs-of-happiness

In another article, Mark asks us not what do we want in life, but what kind of pain do we want in life? Happiness is struggle, he says.

http://qz.com/584874/you-probably-know-to-ask-yourself-what-do-i-want-heres-a-way-better-question/

That’s all I have for today. Hopefully you’ll get something out of Mr. Manson’s wisdom.

 

_________

Quick link for my (most probably misguided) Google search

 

0 comments