Via email, from my friend “Alice”:
“Okay people I am counting on you to give me some honest answers. I keep going back & forth, back & forth about wanting to join Facebook. There is a huge part of my curiosity that is making me want to join. There is also a side of me that does not want to worry about people in my past requesting to be my friend. Basically, there is only 1 person I keep in touch with from high school & that is how I want to keep it. What is the whole etiquette about denying friend request? Has it been a more positive experience than a negative one? Does it suck up a lot of your time? I am a computer addict, so I worry that this will be another thing to soak up my time that could be spent elsewhere.”
So many great questions covering so many current issues we all face. I asked this question on Twitter; my podcasting buddy Michael Gaines (@istarman) reminded me that Alice could avoid her fellow alumni by registering under her married name only. (Sidenote: Annie Boccio, another Push My Follow podcaster, wrestled with adding her maiden name to Facebook a few weeks ago. Her high school friends weren’t finding her, so she added it. On Twitter, she mentioned she felt odd using her maiden name again.)
Alice is not one of us; she is what I call a ‘normal person.’ She isn’t a social media person, but she is Generation X and computer savvy. She’s a stay-at-home-mom and she is relatively shy and private. She’d like to use Facebook as a way to keep contact with her real life, intimate friends.
What are your suggestions for Alice?